“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”
If you asked most anxiety or panic attack sufferers what was the worst piece of advice they have been told, I would bet my last buck it would most likely be along the lines of one of the following:
‘You just need to snap out of it’
‘Come on, pull yourself together’.
Do these phrases sound familiar to you?
You may have even told them to yourself, hoping that a stern word would sort you out, break the cycle and make it all go away.
The fact is, being told this, or telling it to yourself is about as helpful as banging your head against a wall.
Yet, these two statements are not as far removed from the truth as you may think, but not in the way you would imagine.
What they are both demanding is a sudden change in your thoughts, your emotions and your behaviours. That in one almighty leap you can become the person you want to be, anxiety and panic free.
This is completely unrealistic and anyone who tells you that this is possible is a charlatan and a liar.
Changing the way you think, feel and behave takes knowledge, dedication and most importantly time.
Put these things together and what you have is a journey, not an instant arrival.
A journey from point a, where you are now, to point b, where you want to be. Just like any journey, no matter how small, it requires a commitment on your behalf.
The first men to scale Everest didn’t turn back at the first sign of danger, they didn’t give up when the path became too steep to walk or the air too thin to breathe.
First they made a commitment and then once they had set their goal, they used will and determination to achieve it.
They understood what they would be facing, they knew what they had to do, they had the tools to tackle it and they took the time to do it.
If they had started their climb thinking that they could just turn back if they had a set back, then they would have never have made it.
This is exactly the same for conquering anxiety and panic. So if your anxiety and panic feels like your Mount Everest then first and foremost you must set out to scale and conquer it with the right attitude and the right approach.
You may not be able to snap out of anxiety and panic, but you can make a fairly quick and significant change in your attitude and approach towards it.
In short, you must have the will, determination and the right mindset to do what is required.
It’s this will and determination, this commitment deep within yourself and the mindset you develop which you must get right first.
Stop being the victim, stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop believing the lies of weakness your anxiety is telling you.
This is what you have to break out of, make that decision and draw that line. Tell yourself you’re ready to do what it takes to not feel this way anymore.
Once you do, you can then begin your journey and you will have what it takes to get to your destination.
Let me tell you now; you are more capable than you give yourself credit for and you have more strength than you can ever imagine.
Visualise that person you want to be, see it, hear it, smell it.
Once you have that unbreakable desire you will start to make the right choices. You will want to do the right things because you understand the path you have to take.
By getting your attitude and approach right first you will then want to:
- understand what it required to feel better and learn the methods and techniques to do it
- keep that will and determination burning inside of you and not allow set backs to stop you
- embrace your journey and be ok with the fact it will take time
However, now we come to the anxiety conundrum.
You’ve got yourself all fired up and ready to fight it, but fighting anxiety is the opposite of what you need to do.
Instead you must welcome it, let it sit with you but show it no thought or care.
It will try and alter your decisions, what you do, where you go and what you believe.
Do not let it, do not trust its lies.
Your fight is not with the feelings of anxiety, but to not allow those thoughts and feelings stopping what you do.
Do not allow it to change who you are and the life force inside of you.
Can it harm you?
No, not one bit.
Do you have some incurable brain tumour?
No, you are fine.
Will you lose your mind?
No, a mad person doesn’t worry for their sanity.
Instead, smile back at your anxiety and panic and tell it that it won’t change your decision. You’ve made your choice, you’ve taken that oath and you’re not going to fall for its tricks again.
You’ve ‘pulled yourself together’ by making that commitment within and now the real work begins. It’s a challenge you will relish, not one you will want to shy away from.
Now you’re ready to take that first step, followed by the next and then the next and the next………….
………now is the time for your journey to begin.
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